I am a serving corper in the western region of the country. When we assumed duty, there was a female corper whom I had interest in but for the sake that I hadn't gotten my accomodation, I often came in from a nearby town.
Our PPA had provided accomodation but mine was yet to be fixed, while the female corper stayed in same house with another male corper. Some days later I saw both of them and from the look of things he had already started wooing her which eventually resulted in a dating sphere.
As time grew old we later moved to another premises provided by school. I grew to like her more because I saw good qualities in her and she is beautiful too but she was dating this guy already.
After awhile, it began to dawn on me that the dude didn't really like her, more like someone just after "goodies". I also noticed that she has been somewhat too playful around me of late; wanting to sit on my lap, rub my head and beards, calling me to see her off... Etc. I didn't take her too serious despite all these because I felt she was dating this dude already.
One day we were in the a room alone and talked about how she spent her xmas. I asked if she didn't go out to see her friends and she said most of her friends were married already.
And then she dropped the bomb shell and asked me to marry her. I said eh? She said I should marry her. With a slight feeling uneasyness, I told her that I can't marry now because no job(though I will get one soon. I just didn't let her know). I was still lost in thought that I sent her a text to ask if she really meant what she said. She didn't reply. I dropped a message on facebook and she didn't reply.
Then a few days ago, she started again and wanted me to accompany her to go an buy something. I resisted initially because her supposed boyfriend was around and she didn't call him. Why me?, I asked and her reply was that he had left with his friend. It was almost getting dark so I obliged to accompany her. This was after she raised the issue of marriage while subtly making it seem that she was joking. She said she asked her boyfriend and he said he wont be ready till 5 years time and that she asked me, I said I am not ready yet.
On our way back she said if it had been the dude, he wouldn't have accompanied her, he doesn't help her with certain things, he gives excuse such as they have tradition. I don't want to mention tribe for sake of sanity.
So, I asked that is it now her eyes got opened? She said she knows but since the service will be ending soon, she is just hanging around. And that she asked me on marriage thing I said I am not ready. So, I playfully said what if I am ready. Those words sounded like music to her ears. And she smiled with a reply that we will talk.
I like this girl because she is well mannered.
I would have proceeded with the relationship but the mere knowledge of the fact that she dated the other guy has really been a burden because it makes me feel I would be dating what someone didn't want to marry. And if it eventually result in marriage, the other guy might feel like a hero cos I believe they have had sex.
Just yesterday, they came from TB Joshua's house because he came home. They came back late and she slept in the dude's room. She even came to my room to ask for water to bath with wrapper. Mere seeing that alone spoilt everything cos I had told her we will talk about it soon.
I like her but I would feel like a fool if I eventually date her nd marry her. So, that's the problem in all of this. Please drop your comments below...
Our PPA had provided accomodation but mine was yet to be fixed, while the female corper stayed in same house with another male corper. Some days later I saw both of them and from the look of things he had already started wooing her which eventually resulted in a dating sphere.
As time grew old we later moved to another premises provided by school. I grew to like her more because I saw good qualities in her and she is beautiful too but she was dating this guy already.
After awhile, it began to dawn on me that the dude didn't really like her, more like someone just after "goodies". I also noticed that she has been somewhat too playful around me of late; wanting to sit on my lap, rub my head and beards, calling me to see her off... Etc. I didn't take her too serious despite all these because I felt she was dating this dude already.
One day we were in the a room alone and talked about how she spent her xmas. I asked if she didn't go out to see her friends and she said most of her friends were married already.
And then she dropped the bomb shell and asked me to marry her. I said eh? She said I should marry her. With a slight feeling uneasyness, I told her that I can't marry now because no job(though I will get one soon. I just didn't let her know). I was still lost in thought that I sent her a text to ask if she really meant what she said. She didn't reply. I dropped a message on facebook and she didn't reply.
Then a few days ago, she started again and wanted me to accompany her to go an buy something. I resisted initially because her supposed boyfriend was around and she didn't call him. Why me?, I asked and her reply was that he had left with his friend. It was almost getting dark so I obliged to accompany her. This was after she raised the issue of marriage while subtly making it seem that she was joking. She said she asked her boyfriend and he said he wont be ready till 5 years time and that she asked me, I said I am not ready yet.
On our way back she said if it had been the dude, he wouldn't have accompanied her, he doesn't help her with certain things, he gives excuse such as they have tradition. I don't want to mention tribe for sake of sanity.
So, I asked that is it now her eyes got opened? She said she knows but since the service will be ending soon, she is just hanging around. And that she asked me on marriage thing I said I am not ready. So, I playfully said what if I am ready. Those words sounded like music to her ears. And she smiled with a reply that we will talk.
I like this girl because she is well mannered.
I would have proceeded with the relationship but the mere knowledge of the fact that she dated the other guy has really been a burden because it makes me feel I would be dating what someone didn't want to marry. And if it eventually result in marriage, the other guy might feel like a hero cos I believe they have had sex.
Just yesterday, they came from TB Joshua's house because he came home. They came back late and she slept in the dude's room. She even came to my room to ask for water to bath with wrapper. Mere seeing that alone spoilt everything cos I had told her we will talk about it soon.
I like her but I would feel like a fool if I eventually date her nd marry her. So, that's the problem in all of this. Please drop your comments below...
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