I've been dating this lady for more than three years now, I love her so much, I want the future with her, and we are about starting the marriage "ritual", but her attitude scares me.
We are both working, eventhough she earns a more better package than I do.
She doesn't see cooking, and host of other domestic chores as a woman's task, and when we discuss this or me complain about it, like telling her what the role of a woman is, her response is that she's been abused, I don't know how quoting the scripture (Prov 31:10-31) for her to know how a woman should act is now termed to be abusive. She turns it to a fight, and leave the house, and when I don't place calls through to her cause of this attitude of hers she says am acting like a woman, cause for me,I'd rather be quiet than say words that I'd later regret.
She had quit on several occasions but somehow we end up coming back together.
I remember her running out of the scene when I proposed to her in public with an expensive ring, she later came back to collect the ring and gave me an excuse of not collecting the ring at the scene cause to her we had unsettled issues. We've been talking about marriage for sometime now, In a couple of months we'd be 35yrs old, she's 3 months older, that I have no problem with, but I have a problem with words she's uttering; she keeps telling me that she promise to quit the marriage if I give her stress.
And, that I should move to a bigger apartment (out of the apartment I just moved in to) before she'd go to the altar with me, as she kept complaining about the environment where the apartment is sited, as she complained the environment is causing damage to her car and also because some touts sit around the entrance of the street.
I remember telling her I don't have that luxury for now, that we'd move as soon as we have the luxury to do that.
She could be a very loving person but her anger, and homely care is something that gives me worry, she could hurt a gentle soul whenever she's angry, am not perfect either but I don't want to live my marriage in fear of what my wife could turn into.
We are both working, eventhough she earns a more better package than I do.
She doesn't see cooking, and host of other domestic chores as a woman's task, and when we discuss this or me complain about it, like telling her what the role of a woman is, her response is that she's been abused, I don't know how quoting the scripture (Prov 31:10-31) for her to know how a woman should act is now termed to be abusive. She turns it to a fight, and leave the house, and when I don't place calls through to her cause of this attitude of hers she says am acting like a woman, cause for me,I'd rather be quiet than say words that I'd later regret.
She had quit on several occasions but somehow we end up coming back together.
I remember her running out of the scene when I proposed to her in public with an expensive ring, she later came back to collect the ring and gave me an excuse of not collecting the ring at the scene cause to her we had unsettled issues. We've been talking about marriage for sometime now, In a couple of months we'd be 35yrs old, she's 3 months older, that I have no problem with, but I have a problem with words she's uttering; she keeps telling me that she promise to quit the marriage if I give her stress.
And, that I should move to a bigger apartment (out of the apartment I just moved in to) before she'd go to the altar with me, as she kept complaining about the environment where the apartment is sited, as she complained the environment is causing damage to her car and also because some touts sit around the entrance of the street.
I remember telling her I don't have that luxury for now, that we'd move as soon as we have the luxury to do that.
She could be a very loving person but her anger, and homely care is something that gives me worry, she could hurt a gentle soul whenever she's angry, am not perfect either but I don't want to live my marriage in fear of what my wife could turn into.
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