I am planing to get married in few months time after searching for a wife for over two years.
I made it clear to my exgirlfriend before we started dating that I won't marry her even if we date eachother, while we were dating she got pregnant for me but we decided to abort the baby though I regreted it, for if I have asked her to keep the pregnancy I would have become a father by now.The lord forgives me I pray. She went through so much pain during and after the abortion,I felt very sorry for her .before she got pregnant I left lagos to the north for military service , while on duty in the north she called me on phone crying that she was missing me that she wants to visit me at the north where I am stationed.I told her not to come due to some reasons but she cried to me on phonne and so I was forced to invite her over .there we were then she got pregnant and returned to lagos , in lagos she did the abortion of the baby. My family members do not like me to marry her due to some reasons, education,height, village distance ,though we speak thesame language before the asbortion I had a prophecy from my friend telling me to be careful with women and that there are some dangers ahead for me from women, my friend gave a prophecy saying that he saw me caught gonoreah in a dream he questioned if I use condoms during sex but I wasn't giving a direct answer but he counselled me to get married as soon as possible because of the dangers ahead. Again I was posted to another state in the north to fight against terrorists .met many northerners there very friendly and wanted me to marry them bbut I would not because they do not meet my most criteria for mariage about 2 ladies. Now I m back in lagos and I returned with a lady from my own state my own dialet I wouild love to marry, she meets my criteria. But my family members say she's too old for me, I am 33 while she says she's 29 .my aunt says she will put me in the armpit, could mean she will take me for granted . In yoruba ,oma gbemi mora . If u know what that means. Now she lives with me in my apartment .my mother says I have to complete my late fathers house before marriage , my elder brother warns that there's something he sees about the lady that I don't see and he dosent see something good another of my brother says I should wait until 5 years time. It appears that my family aren't happy about our coming together.
Another reason I should be afriad is because my new girl ,the first time I approached her for marriage she says that God did not ordain both of us to marry but as at then he was about to get married to one custom officer but the mariage did not hold reason because the custom officer wants her. To get pregnant first. But I guess she refused to sleep with him as she claims that's why it didn't work out between them. The custom officer is financially okay than me or richer than me when it comes to money,
She later turned to me after few months later to say that she sought the face of God concerning us both,that God says I am the one for her. My aunt claims that the lady is lying to me that she does not love me.
Now again my exgirl is raining curses on me and promise to deal with me. I also blamed myself becausse I said hurting words to her on the phone
She says that I have the guts to bring another woman with me to lagos,and I didn't tell her I was in lagos. She says she will go Unclad and swear with the blood of the child that was aborted
I am in confusion ,what should I do? But sometimes
I sense that there's no reason to panic
But there should be a reason to panic because I have wronged her, did I ?
Can I ever be loved by a woman I am yet to marry, does she love me? As I do to her?
Please what do I need to do?
I made it clear to my exgirlfriend before we started dating that I won't marry her even if we date eachother, while we were dating she got pregnant for me but we decided to abort the baby though I regreted it, for if I have asked her to keep the pregnancy I would have become a father by now.The lord forgives me I pray. She went through so much pain during and after the abortion,I felt very sorry for her .before she got pregnant I left lagos to the north for military service , while on duty in the north she called me on phone crying that she was missing me that she wants to visit me at the north where I am stationed.I told her not to come due to some reasons but she cried to me on phonne and so I was forced to invite her over .there we were then she got pregnant and returned to lagos , in lagos she did the abortion of the baby. My family members do not like me to marry her due to some reasons, education,height, village distance ,though we speak thesame language before the asbortion I had a prophecy from my friend telling me to be careful with women and that there are some dangers ahead for me from women, my friend gave a prophecy saying that he saw me caught gonoreah in a dream he questioned if I use condoms during sex but I wasn't giving a direct answer but he counselled me to get married as soon as possible because of the dangers ahead. Again I was posted to another state in the north to fight against terrorists .met many northerners there very friendly and wanted me to marry them bbut I would not because they do not meet my most criteria for mariage about 2 ladies. Now I m back in lagos and I returned with a lady from my own state my own dialet I wouild love to marry, she meets my criteria. But my family members say she's too old for me, I am 33 while she says she's 29 .my aunt says she will put me in the armpit, could mean she will take me for granted . In yoruba ,oma gbemi mora . If u know what that means. Now she lives with me in my apartment .my mother says I have to complete my late fathers house before marriage , my elder brother warns that there's something he sees about the lady that I don't see and he dosent see something good another of my brother says I should wait until 5 years time. It appears that my family aren't happy about our coming together.
Another reason I should be afriad is because my new girl ,the first time I approached her for marriage she says that God did not ordain both of us to marry but as at then he was about to get married to one custom officer but the mariage did not hold reason because the custom officer wants her. To get pregnant first. But I guess she refused to sleep with him as she claims that's why it didn't work out between them. The custom officer is financially okay than me or richer than me when it comes to money,
She later turned to me after few months later to say that she sought the face of God concerning us both,that God says I am the one for her. My aunt claims that the lady is lying to me that she does not love me.
Now again my exgirl is raining curses on me and promise to deal with me. I also blamed myself becausse I said hurting words to her on the phone
She says that I have the guts to bring another woman with me to lagos,and I didn't tell her I was in lagos. She says she will go Unclad and swear with the blood of the child that was aborted
I am in confusion ,what should I do? But sometimes
I sense that there's no reason to panic
But there should be a reason to panic because I have wronged her, did I ?
Can I ever be loved by a woman I am yet to marry, does she love me? As I do to her?
Please what do I need to do?
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